OT: Poor S*B, never got a breather...

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After 71 years of marriage, a husband and wife die on the same day

https://www.cnn.com/2019/07/16/us/husban...index.html

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Do the math 71 years he was 94 she 88.
They met when he was 23 she 16.
16 will only gets you 20 now.
16 got this guy life.

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Good for them. 
May they rest in piece.

I love  stories like this because of all the people that told me and my wife that we were stupid and to young to get married when we did.

the heart wants what the heart wants....

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@JimmyinSD said:
Good for them. 
May they rest in piece.

I love  stories like this because of all the people that told me and my wife that we were stupid and to young to get married when we did.

the heart wants what the heart wants....

...So does the groin.....

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It was a different time back then. Parents of friends of ours, he's 82 and she's 78. When she was 12 YEARS OLD, he told her he'd eventually marry her. That kind of shit today would get you arrested. But it was the thinking back in the day and people didn't think anything of a 16 year old and a 12 year old roller skating together or other things like that and getting married extremely young (before 20). Interactions were also more monitored and innocent.

Like I tell teenagers today that want to get offended over everything: don't use the 2019 filter on things that happened 25+ years ago, other than the very obviously wrong things.

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@StickyBun said:
It was a different time back then. Parents of friends of ours, he's 82 and she's 78. When she was 12 YEARS OLD, he told her he'd eventually marry her. That kind of shit today would get you arrested. But it was the thinking back in the day and people didn't think anything of a 16 year old and a 12 year old roller skating together or other things like that and getting married extremely young (before 20). Interactions were also more monitored and innocent.

Like I tell teenagers today that want to get offended over everything: don't use the 2019 filter on things that happened 25+ years ago, other than the very obviously wrong things.

Very true. I actually told that 16 will get you life joke because it was from my dad. 
Very similar story right down to the roller skating. Except it was my 12 year old at the time mom who eyed my 17 year old dad. He didn't notice her. Then 4 year later after he came back from the Navy my 21 year old dad noticed my 16 year old mom. I guess she changed a bit.
Things were very different in the 1940s.

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I think the biggest difference between this couple and modern couples is expectations. These two are right the same age my parents.  Mom is still living. They were young children in the depression. Dad served in WWII. They knew real hardships. They never expected to be rich just find a good partner and start working and making a next generation. People old enough to remember the horrors of the depression and WWII didn't expect to need a 3900 square foot home to fit 2 adults and 2 children. My folks raised 1/2 a dozen in a small 3 bedroom. The oldest got the attic room to themselves.  We used the basement for play space and sleepovers. We all moved out before 19 years old. We never expected our parents to be responsible for us forever. Every generation expects more it seems. High expectations are the murder of marriages.

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@suncoastvike said:
I think the biggest difference between this couple and modern couples is expectations. These two are right the same age my parents.  Mom is still living. They were young children in the depression. Dad served in WWII. They knew real hardships. They never expected to be rich just find a good partner and start working and making a next generation. People old enough to remember the horrors of the depression and WWII didn't expect to need a 3900 square foot home to fit 2 adults and 2 children. My folks raised 1/2 a dozen in a small 3 bedroom. The oldest got the attic room to themselves.  We used the basement for play space and sleepovers. We all moved out before 19 years old. We never expected our parents to be responsible for us forever. Every generation expects more it seems. High expectations are the murder of marriages.

Honestly, its not the generation that expects more, its the parents that have fostered and enabled it. Many parents dont' want to parent today, they want to be buddies. They give them everything. They don't let them fail. They are praised for everything and anything. They are co-dependent and entitled. Can't handle any kind of slight adversity themselves. Getting driver's licenses at 16 years old is at an all time low because why should they?? Mommy or Daddy can be the chauffeur. Mommy doesn't want to cut the cord ever. Its the main reason anxiety is at an all time high for kids under 20. This is 100% on how they were raised. As far as marriage expectations go, they should be higher than the 1940s. That's a separate issue. But the 'keeping up the with the Joneses' thing has been going on forever as far as bigger houses, etc. 

Many kids that are 22 today act like 15 year olds of 30 years ago. But not all of them. There are some excellent millennials out there and I like how they ask 'why' so much. 

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@StickyBun said:

@suncoastvike said:
I think the biggest difference between this couple and modern couples is expectations. These two are right the same age my parents.  Mom is still living. They were young children in the depression. Dad served in WWII. They knew real hardships. They never expected to be rich just find a good partner and start working and making a next generation. People old enough to remember the horrors of the depression and WWII didn't expect to need a 3900 square foot home to fit 2 adults and 2 children. My folks raised 1/2 a dozen in a small 3 bedroom. The oldest got the attic room to themselves.  We used the basement for play space and sleepovers. We all moved out before 19 years old. We never expected our parents to be responsible for us forever. Every generation expects more it seems. High expectations are the murder of marriages.

Honestly, its not the generation that expects more, its the parents that have fostered and enabled it. Many parents dont' want to parent today, they want to be buddies. They give them everything. They don't let them fail. They are praised for everything and anything. They are co-dependent and entitled. Can't handle any kind of slight adversity themselves. Getting driver's licenses at 16 years old is at an all time low because why should they?? Mommy or Daddy can be the chauffeur. Mommy doesn't want to cut the cord ever. Its the main reason anxiety is at an all time high for kids under 20. This is 100% on how they were raised. As far as marriage expectations go, they should be higher than the 1940s. That's a separate issue. But the 'keeping up the with the Joneses' thing has been going on forever as far as bigger houses, etc. 

Many kids that are 22 today act like 15 year olds of 30 years ago. But not all of them. There are some excellent millennials out there and I like how they ask 'why' so much. 

I agree. I think it's actually ok to be buddies but even buddies will point out when you're wrong. Missing is the tough love.